The edge I mention in the title is the “Edge of Too Late”.
I’ve stood at that precipice at least once in my life. So have most of the people in my world. How about you?
*you’ve sidled up to the Marlboro Man, batting your eyelashes, in hopes of finding out where he hides his stash of smokes
*you forgot what your kids look like and you think your husband is your CEO in disguise
*you’ve spent hours searching Pinterest for new uses for your enormous collection of vodka bottles
*you’ve stopped counting calories because, well, you just can’t count that high
*your idea of exercise is pulling on your pantyhose, then…
Don’t look down…
You’re on the Edge of Too Late
What can you do now?
Since we all want to live long healthy and happy lives, we’d better figure this out. If you’re truly too close to the edge of the virtual cliff, take a step back, turn around and look at where you’ve been.
Examining how we got to the edge is the only way to move in a safer direction.
Looking back to the 1950s, women started working outside the home. Modern advances in medicine and technology made life easier. People moved from the city to the suburbs. Doing things faster became the only way to keep up.
When we had time to make our breads, desserts and meals from scratch and ate a reasonably sized portion; when we could walk or ride a bike to the grocery store or the library or school; when we could watch TV only until 9pm because the station went off the air after that hour; when part of the excitement of the day was seeing the mailman walk up to our mailbox; when we played outside til dinner and went back out to play til dusk…that’s when people were healthier, less stressed, had more time for the family and hobbies.
When we watered our lawns and pulled weeds by hand; when soap and water was good enough to clean almost anything; when we ignored the occasional pesky insect; when we used fresh air, flowers and a fresh-baked loaf of bread to enhance the scent of our homes…that’s when we were healthier and free of so many chemicals.
There are informative articles in newspapers and magazines, reality shows on TV and reports on the Internet all telling us what we need to do to be healthier, to avoid serious illnesses and to live our lives with more quality. We read them. We pay attention. We may do further research on the topic ourselves and talk to our family and friends about it. We even try to take some of that advice and put it into practice.
Unfortunately, most of us don’t succeed on the 1st or the 5th or the 20th attempt to set ourselves on the right track. We’ve gotten lazy, spoiled and seem to think as we did as teenagers…”nothing bad is going to happen to me.” We think we still have time, no matter how much time has passed since our initial effort.
We carry on for decades still telling ourselves the same untruths…I’ll quit smoking by the end of the month…I’ll start on my healthy eating plan on Monday…After this one more fast food meal, I promise to cook dinner at home…it’s a party, I can’t deny myself a drink/dessert.
The reasons we do this are as varied as people are different…not enough time to plan, it’s too expensive, not ready to change yet, it’s so much easier to…spray chemicals on the lawn/make dinner out of a box/drive instead of walk or ride a bike/join a gym/play a board game with your kids, etc, etc, etc.
So, one day, you get the feeling that you have put off whatever it is you know in your heart that you should have done for yourself and your family just a bit too long.
You feel as if you’re on the “EDGE OF TOO LATE”.
How hard will you kick yourself when the day comes that you are diagnosed with lung disease from smoking, diabetes from overeating, cancer from pesticide use, failing organs because you just couldn’t stop yourself from overindulging your wants instead of taking care of your needs? And at that point, will it matter how angry or sorry you are? Oops, it’s too late!
I’m as guilty of this behavior as anyone. I’m not saying we shouldn’t have medicines to cure illness, technology to make tasks faster and easier, enjoy eating to the fullest, or reap the benefits of the hard, sometimes stressful, work that affords you a comfortable life.
But, I vow to live by Socrates’ adage, “Everything in moderation. Nothing to excess.”
Change is hard, but it will be worth the effort.
I’ve made changes this year and lost 45 pounds in the process. Now that I’m in the habit of having dessert of my choice once a week, eat less fat and getting on the treadmill every morning before breakfast, it’s easy to maintain the weight loss and stay in the groove. It feels great to be in control again.
You can do it, too. Baby steps…that’s the easiest way to begin. Change one thing. Develop a habit. Vow to start today, rather than next Monday or after the wedding/party/cookout, etc.
Start NOW! You’ll be so proud of yourself for hauling out that sexy, smart and strong woman who you are hiding behind your bad habits.
What do you need to change? Tell me your experience of getting off the cliff.
Please do leave a comment. I love it when you tell me what’s on your mind.