I’ve been anxious all week to host my friend, Barbara McDowell, here today! At her blog, Life Can’t Drive 55, Barbara posts about topics including hiding out from class reunions, an ongoing addiction with American Idol, and on a variety of joys in life. Please make sure you stop over to check out Barbara’s blog. She promises to welcome you in and teach you some line dances.
Guest Post by Barbara McDowell: A Single Gal’s Guide to the Galaxy
I was chatting with a co-worker on Monday about the ways of karma and how it tracks back in life. She leaned in and confessed her belief that she is not yet married with kids due to how she’s treated some past boyfriends. With enough extra years to put me a generation above her, I pointed out that I also wasn’t married and had a few guys I’d potentially scarred as well. What? I was in my low twenties. Let’s call that the learning phase.
However, while there may be a *cough* hint from the karma train remaining, I’d say my being single is because it is where I’m supposed to be right now. Granted if Lenny Kravitz, Prince, or Johnny Depp were to call tomorrow, my status will definitely yeah babymight change, but I’m not running around feeling lost in the world because I don’t have a mate.
As a single gal, I’ve grown to appreciate that the world is an open playground of opportunity, freedom, and adventure. My interpersonal circle is filled with core family, three “besties” that I’ve known for two to three decades, and an extended group of other friends that I’ve met along the way. At holiday time, the singles don’t face a power struggle on which in-laws win us for the day. Since I don’t have any dependents, I can fill the tank, fire up some tunes, and drive out for a weekend getaway if the mood hits. Niagara Falls, Put in Bay, and Yellow Springs (Ohio) are a few of my one tank trip faves. And when craving some downtime, solitude is mine as soon as I shut the garage door behind me.
Do you want to further embrace your freedom? Here are some links to guide you on the way.
Inspirations and Self-Care
Did you know there is a National Unmarried and Single Americans Week? I giggled when I found this, especially when learning the whole concept started 20 years ago in my home state of Ohio. This year, it falls September 16-22. I’m not sure what they do to party, but I will be checking back for more.
I’ll let you in a little secret. It is okay to be happy about where you are in life with no apologies. In I’m Single and Happy…Why Does That Make Them So Mad, Eleanore Wells shares her joys of the single life and how she’s handled those who take shots at it. With Quit Hatin’ on Single People, Tracy Scott addresses the media’s attack on singles (this one done via a Huffington Post article).
Back in my younger, workaholic days, I’ll admit to many late evening dinners at home consisting of the Belgian waffles staple. In Healthy Eating for One, Art Kress provides some fantastic tips for making more nutritionally sound choices while dining solo.
Getting Out and About
When a movie comes out that I feel I must see versus wait until DVD, I have no problem going alone. I know that others don’t feel that comfortable and found some tips to overcome the “all eyes on me” fear. In I Went to the Movies Alone, Joanna Cattanach shares how she made it through her first time. Grab your popcorn and Twizzlers and join in the fun.
Another spot where some women feel self-conscious is dining out alone. Gretchen Kelly shares her experiences and advice with Table for One: “Critical” Advice for Dining Out Alone.
Are there some destinations you’ve been hankering to see, but wondered how to go about it alone? Whoa is there a market for you! Carve out a little time for some quick Google searches and up will pop multiple listings for travel companies and less formal groups catering to solo women travelers of all ages, budgets, and backgrounds.
For anyone seeking community while dining, Gray Cargill’s Introducing: Invite for a Bite provides details on a new program looking to connect solo travelers around the world.
If the thought of going it alone scares you, how about taking the baby steps of a group option? Trips that are tagged “Girlfriend Getaways” have become their own popular niche and you can invite both your single and married friends to join in. Girlfriend Getaways: Wine Tasting in Long Island, from Melanie Nayer, is a great destination example. Or you can join in with a tour group and make new friends, as Gray shares again in Solo Travel or Tour Travel? Which Adventure is Right For You?
David Smith’s Why Women Stay Single post made me laugh AND want to run away from my screen at the same time. Brace yourself and make sure you are not eating or drinking. Bat wings, Elvis costumes, and lots of spandex are involved. You have been warned.
But wait, there’s more! In The Reason Some Girls Stay Single, Melody Maker shares audio of a guy wound a little bit too tight. Whether this is a real “wanna be” dater or a hoax, I’m sure many of us can relate from some of the creepy guys we’ve come across. Run. Run fast.
Thanks again for having me, Marcia! I hope everyone enjoys the post.
By day, Barbara McDowell works in training and development, managing the educational needs and course development for the staff of a regional accounting firm. In the depths of the night, she is a crafter of stories birthed with dark, human themes. Suspense at each corner turned. Terror sometimes waiting at the end. Initially a short story writer, Barbara is in process on her first novel that focuses on the twists of redemption and forgiveness. A lover of coffee, cats, crime dramas, crochet, conspiracy theories and chocolate, Barbara can be found blogging at http://writenowlife.wordpress.com/ or tweeting at @BMcDowellOH.
I’m thrilled to have you here, my sexy, smart and single friend!
What do you like to do on your own? If you’re single, what tips can you share to embrace the freedom of single life?
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