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A Fresh Look at Resolutions

Since January 1st, I’ve read dozens of uplifting, inspiring and fun “New Year/2013 resolution”posts. Haven’t you? They’re everywhere.

The beginning of a new year gets people excited. A feeling of being given another chance to make good on our personal promises gets people talking. They can put behind them those resolutions from last year that didn’t come to fruition and start all over again.

But what sometimes happens a few weeks into the new year way before those great plans have become habits? Life gets in the way. We catch a cold, we go on vacation, we have an overloaded schedule, kids are home sick, whatever.

And we forget. Our resolve dissolves. We figure we’ll catch up next month…except we don’t.

Maybe this scenario doesn’t apply to you. Maybe you get up everyday and accomplish something on your list and at the end of the year you’ve done everything you wanted to do.

How about this scenario, then?

You know those days when those evil voices are banging around in your head making an awful noise? They’re all talking at once.

  • “You suck at everything!”
  • “You’ll never amount to anything”
  • “Finish a project? Ha!”
  • “Everyone at your job thinks you’re a dork.”
  • “Your new outfit would look better hanging in the closet than on you.”
  • “You should be embarrassed to let anyone read your book.”

And you just want to stay in bed all day with the covers over your head.

Both scenarios throw up roadblocks keeping us from following through on a promise to ourselves.

So, what do you do?

STAY IN BED AND PULL THE COVERS OVER YOUR HEAD.

That’s right. Pamper yourself for a day. The next morning you may wake up feeling a little better about yourself, if not anxious to tackle your life list/project/resolution.

How do you get back on track?

1. Forgive yourself for jumping track

2. Revisit your plan and make changes where necessary

3. Lay out all the steps needed to accomplish your project and start with step #1.

4. Let the momentum carry you.

 

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To avoid burnout  or self-doubt in the future, try something I practice.

 

Establish “Me Time”.

This is time you block out just to take care of you. It should be whatever makes you happy, relaxed and peaceful. It could be 30 minutes every afternoon to exercise, a little retail therapy, time to make a healthy breakfast smoothie or 15 minutes of journaling time before bed.

Make “Me Time” happen at least 3 times daily.

Here’s how I use my “Me Time” is:

  1. 40 minutes of exercise first thing in the morning
  2. time to plan the meals for my new eating plan
  3. an 90 luxurious minutes to read before bed.

These are non-negotiable moments for me each day. Nothing interferes.

Me Time allows you a break from work, from the voices in your head, from the feeling of inadequacy. It gives back the pleasure of doing something good for yourself and refreshes your spirit.

It’s okay if “ME TIME” is the only item on your list of New Year resolutions.

Tell me in the comment section…what are your 3 moments of daily, non-negotiable “Me Time”?

 

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Discussion

  1. Nicole  January 13, 2013

    I think I’m pretty good at making me time. When I feel like life is getting to busy/stressful, I even give myself one full week night off from everything. It’s a real treat because the night is yours and it feels like “stolen me time” because one evening doesn’t take too big a dent out of the rest of your week for doing productive things.

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  2. K.B. Owen  January 13, 2013

    Hi, Marcia, Happy New Year! I love your tips, and I think your outlook is spot on…doing things that are good for you don’t have to be a chore, they can belong to “me” time. I think those morning walks I’ve been meaning to get to would fit in that category…

    Looking forward to another year of fab cyber-friendship with you, hunny! :D
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    • Marcia Richards  January 13, 2013

      Happy New Year, Kathy!! Yes! Go for that walk! That’s your non-negotiable time just for you! Imagine all the ideas that a peaceful walk will help develop for your future books!
      A year without all of our cyber friends would be unthinkable, Sweets! Wishing you a wonderful one!
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  3. Pam  January 10, 2013

    I have so missed your blog, Marcia. And it has gotten even hotter since I’ve been away – I love the new look! One of the hardest lessons I learned last year was about just how important it is to take that “me time.” I used to consider carving out time for my writing goals my “me time,” but am realizing more and more how important it is for me just have time to recharge or have a little fun! I try to carve out an hour a day for this during the workweek and more on the weekend. I burned out a little last year trying to finish the book and manage work stress, and am more conscious than ever of how “okay” it is to NOT be productive the entire time I’m awake : ). Good to be back and to see your blog going strong!
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    • Marcia Richards  January 10, 2013

      Yay! Yay! Yay! You’re back!! I’ve thought about you so often and missed you! Oh, I’m so glad you took the time to find the best way to handle all that you want to do! AND so glad you’re taking some Me Time to enjoy life. Working at the job and coming home to work at the book, then do little for relaxation and fun makes for dull, stressed, unhappy writers!

      You sound wonderful and I can’t wait to stop over at your blog! Welcome back, Pam!
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  4. Sheila Seabrook  January 10, 2013

    Lol! 3 moments of me time, huh? I guess the first moment would be when I grab that first cup of coffee and vanish into my office. I turn on my computer, plan out my schedule for the day, then either write in my journal or jump directly into the WIP. The next moment would be after supper, when I settle down with my iPad or a book. I don’t think there’s a third moment in the day, Marcia. :)

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    • Marcia Richards  January 10, 2013

      Hmmm. Gee, Sheila, I don’t think the first one counts as Me Time unless you are writing in your journal. Working on your WIP definitely doesn’t count!
      Maybe if you have a leisurely breakfast with your hubby first thing, then take a bubble bath later in the day and then settle in to read. Or, read in the tub! Work on it, my friend. Relaxation time doing something fun – not work. :)
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  5. Diana Douglas  January 9, 2013

    My ‘me time’ starts when I first wake up in the morning. I get my coffee, sit down on the couch, the new pup crawls in my lap and I write whatever comes to mind in a spiral notebook. It’s my favorite time of day.
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  6. Jess Witkins  January 9, 2013

    I love your me time list! I must get better about using me time for consistent journaling. It’s a soothing practice for me and yet, it’s something I give up most days. I’ll keep at it! Especially since I was just gifted with 3 new journals! Better keep writing to fill those puppies!

    I adore your 90 minutes of reading. You better keep that rule!
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    • Marcia Richards  January 9, 2013

      Yes, fill those journals!! Memoirs can come from journals, you know!
      I can’t sleep without reading. Sometimes I’m on the computer later than planned, so i read later than planned and then i sleep in later than planned. Thank goodness I have no boss cracking a whip over me anymore!
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  7. Donna@Gardens Eye View  January 9, 2013

    Right now they are 30-60 minutes before I go to work, 30-60 when I return home and then 30-60 before I go to bed…that will change when I retire…I have ideas :)
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    • Marcia Richards  January 9, 2013

      I can’t wait til you retire, Donna!! (I’m sure you feel even more strongly about that. LOL) Dying to know what those ideas are but, so glad you make lots of Me Time for yourself!
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